Pakistani Society and Unmarried Women: 'Society Makes You Realize You Are Not Married'

 BBC News

"Why haven't you got married yet? It's getting old. Settle down quickly. If it's too late then you will find another man with marriage or children."

In a conservative society like Pakistan, many such phrases are heard by women in their daily life but still there are many women who are still living a good life without marriage.

Among such women is Tanzeela Ayaz, a resident of Rawalpindi, who is a beautician by profession and has not yet got married.

In an interview with the BBC about the pressure on women in Pakistani society to get married, he told us that if a girl does not get married then everyone gives her advice, she is put under a lot of pressure and she realizes a lot of such things. What you don't even think about.

"The first question asked is why not get married, what is the reason?"

Tanzeela told us that there is no special reason for her not getting married yet but she believes that marriage should be done where you are mentally satisfied.

"Get married there who have no problem with your profession. I haven't found a suitable person yet and when I do I will get married. "

"Not being married is not a question mark."

Talking about social attitudes, Tanzeela told us that at first she did not feel that not getting married was a big problem.

"I am doing well in my professional life. I never felt bad about why I didn't get married or why I didn't get married but people made me realize that. "

Society says that if a girl is single, life is difficult for her while there are many girls around us who are living unmarried," she added.

Most people believe that marriage is not safe without a girl, but people do not care where she is getting married or with whom."

She says that if people don't make you realize that you are not married then you can live a very good life but people make you realize that.

Tanzeela says she has bravely faced these things and attitudes.

"People look at me with their own eyes. It doesn't matter to them how successful I am or how satisfied I am with my life. The most important thing for them is marriage.

Not being married is not a question mark," she says. This is an option and sometimes some people get married at a very young age, some are late but a woman is always attributed to the fact that you are successful only when you get married.

"Better a poor horse than no horse at all.? " "

"Tanzeela believes that a woman can live a good and successful life even without marriage.

If you are involved in a profession, even the basic necessities of your life are being met, then you are very satisfied in your life. Your job, your independence is your strength, so you feel very satisfied. '

Tanzeela further clarified that it is not at all that she is not in favor of marriage but she believes that it is necessary to have a good partner for marriage.

"I'm not saying don't get married. You must do it but only if you feel that your partner is with you. "

Marriage is important, but only if you have a good partner. So don't make the decision that people are pressuring you to get married.Don't compromise.Better a poor horse than no horse at all.

'Don't have an affair in the name of marriage'

Tanzeela says that society has made marriage of a woman a big problem but it is not such a big problem.

Give a woman time to convince herself in life that she can be successful and when the time comes she can get married," she says. Marriage is not a big issue we have created. "

This is what I am saying, do not have an affair in the name of marriage to make a living. Give girls the opportunity to live their lives the way they want. They can go into any profession and make themselves successful.

The best thing about being unmarried ... 'freedom'

When I asked Tanzeela what she thought was the best thing about being single, she laughed and replied, "Freedom ..."

"There aren't many problems in your life because you are not married," he said. You live your life as you wish. There are no restrictions on you. You have no responsibility. You do what you want. "

"Every man has his own temperament, so many things become limited after marriage," she says. When you are single, you can live your life in your own way.